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Before He Pops The Question!

Before He Pops The Question!

I'm sure we all are familiar with the saying " Well you can force the horse to the river but can't force him to drink."

Same applies with men and marriage. Unlike us women we see getting married differently; we believe ones we're in love with him then he's the one.
Well for the Brother's it's not the same and yet they think we're complicated?
Well let's not dwell on that for now.

Men put a lot into consideration before taking that Bold Step of popping the question; meanwhile if  we were to analyse who's giving most things up it's us female's . Yet they make it seem like they are doing us a favour.

Okay straight to the point, it's one thing getting a guy, it's another thing getting him to commit and taking the relationship to a whole other level and finally been married is entirely another level. So we want to make sure we're not just going to get married and run out or get married wondering what you were thinking .

So things to look out for


  • Does He Love You? Do You Love him? Before you say i think he does but sometimes I feel he doesn't . Here are some factors to help you determine . 
if he loves you he respects you. he doesn't just buy you gifts alone but he respects the woman you are and the role you play in his life.

if you love him you just don't feel butterflies in your Tommy for him. You'd be able to support him and stand by him even when the world seem to be against him, because you trust and believe in him. With him you're contented .
  • Maturity: Marriage is for matured minds. Can you or can he handle your imperfections . It's a Responsibility . You just don't bail out of .
  • Readiness: Well you think you're ready for marriage or taking the relationship to a whole other level well is he? are you really ?
Look out for 
*Finance; he doesn't have to be a multi millionaire but at least he has a job that yields income or funds to run a home.
Then in your part are you really satisfied with his take home salary or wages?

*Mental and Emotional readiness is also crucial; you don't want him proposing to you because it's the next thing to do or because he has to move on from an ex and what not. He has to be both mentally and emotionally prepared to make it work.

You also have to know that this is what you want. Not just because it's due time or pressure . 


With all these I Promise you a happy home that'd stand the test of anything .

if this was helpful please comment; it'd encourage me to post more on this and also on topics to share with y'all 


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