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Gender ReveaI. It's a Girl! Again!?

Hey guys, Its been a while I blogged and trust me I've missed it,  alot has been going on with me lately,  from planning and celebrating Vida's birthday, to finding out I was pregnant as the title of this blog have it and to loosing my mum; this past year (2019) has been quite a roller coaster.

 Well as you have it I'm back and not going anywhere, Meanwhile Happy New Year!   

  It's a Girl!
 To be frank guys there's this feeling of greed and guilt that comes with gender reveal after having an Ultrasound. It's like a child unwrapping his or her present with very high expectations of wanting a particular gift but gets something else, either ways you just have to be grateful for your gift.                             

   I had gone in for my ultrasound scan during my second trimester, I am not quite sure of how many weeks I was at the time but it was my second trimester, so I went in for the scan to see how well baby is developing and also anticipating to know the gender even though in my head I've concluded that I'm having a boy, I mean I've prayed about it, I planned everything from ovulation to sex and all; then boom,
"Its a girl"  To be honest I felt terrible for even feeling disappointed, I mean all of a sudden I was contemplating breaking the news to Nkem (mine), should I tell him we're having another girl or should I wait till delivery and he sees for himself? I knew that was wrong thinking but I couldn't control it, I was wondering if he'd be happy once I broke the news to him, coupled with friends, families and some acquaintance were already, should I use the word "prophesying"? that Vida would soon have a younger brother.

Long story short, I broke the news to hubby not sure of what his reaction would be, him been an African man(lol), well I was thrilled when he said  he's getting double bride price and I couldn't help but laugh out loud, I mean what did I expect him to say? Surely I've been seeing too much of Nigerian drama and wasn't thinking right or it was pregnancy hormones getting me overwhelmed.

Or perhaps its not too much of Nigerian home videos neither my hormones, its possibly that mindset common amongst Africans that having a male child gives you a firm ground in your home. Its very common amongst Africans that once a wife bares a Son that she automatically has some sort of security, because once a woman doesn't have a son or talk more a child, the tendency of loosing her man or more still her home to another woman is very high.

Well guys I hope you've enjoyed this blog post as much as I had fun sharing, please leave your thoughts and or comments . xoxo.

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